Assalam-o-Alaikom..
sorry to say dear muje ap k idea se ittifaq ni hy k pehly khud ko badlo...
es ki waja B hy mere pas magar zarori ni k ap meri waja se ittifaq karain... :)
waja ye hy k kehty to sab hain k khud ko badlo pehly magar haqiqat ye hy k na kisi ne kbhi khud ko badla hy na badlaingy.... even k ap ki ye soch hy to muje batain k aj tak khud ko kitna badal paye ho??
kya haimesha ap Road par Red signal ho to Zebra Crossing se pehly khary hoty ho??
Kya ap signal kabhi Break ni kya jany anjany me??
agar anjany me kiya ya jaan bhoj kar or ap pakry nai gaye to kya ap khud Police k pass gaye ho k mene Law break kya hy so muje fine karain???
es tarah ki or B bohot c batain hain lekin sab bayan ni karna chah raha abhi me so...
and if you are muslim...
1 Qoul hy ya Hadees not confirm sunna tha mene k...
agar ap bura kaam karty ho or ap ko andaza hy k me ye bura kaam karta hn or ap ka koi janny wala karta hy to usy mana karo ho sakta hy ap k mana karny se wo baaz aa jaye or bad me us ko dhaik kar ap B baz aa jao k mene esy bola tha ye baaz aa gaya so us ko dhaik kar sharm se wo khud B wo kaam ho sakta hy choor day....
so Conclusion ye hy k
koshish karo k ass pas k logo ko achi baat kaho bar bar boly se ap khud B theek hongy or wo B..
Insha Allah...
Stay Blessed... Stay Happy... :)
and Don't mind for my reply... it's my thought.... es liye mene share kar liye,,,, :)

ALL YOU CAN CHANGE IS YOURSELF, BUT SOMETIMES THAT CHANGES EVERYTHING |

hum log wo log hyn sorry to say jo samandar k kinaaary py kharay hokr gehrai ka andaza laga lyty hn or usi k accordngly dusro k views ko ghlat or khd sahi proof karny my lagy rhty hn n the fact is " we want other people's to understand us but we dont want to understand other people's"

@hania khan you are right
because signal py bheek mangtay bachy ko maaaf kro kehna to aaaasan hy but usse puchna utna hi mushkil hy k " aaakhir tum ye kyun kr rhy ho? "

Asalaam-o-Alaikum
I just wanted to say that changing yourself is a good thing, you should develop more humbleness in your character and apply respectable values in your life but if a man is to only consider about himself then in a way he becomes more selfish rather then to help other. You never know there might be an opportunity of helping some by giving them an advice for them to change their bad ways of living their life and stop them from doing haram, you might just turn him back towards his deen have full conscious of his iman and seeing what you have done Allah might give you Hidayat as well. Soo the phrase of changing yourself 1st is not right. That means forget about anyone else you can help, just think of your doing. E.g. Stop telling another man to stop drinking alcohol when you discreetly drink it yourself. That is what the phrase means, but if you instead stop someone from doing something wrong your imaan inside you will stop you as well. Give other people advice to quiet smoking even when you do it cuz you might just save someone's life, and because you helped someone out Allah will help you.